According to Merriam Webster to objectify means to treat
someone as an object rather than a person.
We hear that women are objectified by men all the time,
reducing her to a soulless piece of meat. She exists for his pleasure only to
indulge his fantasies. And some men do that, but so do women.
Women objectify
men and they objectify other women, granted they may be doing it for different
reasons but they still do it. For many women men are reduced to dollar signs in
conversation, oh he would be a great provider, so wasn’t that man just
objectified? Seeing him as a cash register rather than a human being. How many
times have we heard, oh he’s just a janitor, or she is just a waitress, that’s
objectifying too.
When a man or a woman sees someone they find attractive
something goes off and it doesn’t have to be sexual. When you notice a person
for their physical attributes or for the way they dress you don’t know anything
about them, but something strikes you and it probably makes you feel good. And
if you were to complement that person by making a comment (a civil one) it
makes them feel good too.
Shouting sexual innuendos at an attractive woman
walking down the street goes way beyond objectifying, it’s rude and vulgar and
chances are that person has a great deal of insecurity that he is trying to
mask. Relational interplay is important
in our over digitized world and we will never be able to rid the world of
vulgar, rude people - one needs to look no further than social media but all of us has the ability
to make the exchanges positive rather than negative. And of course there is
always that old saying we can fall back on; if you can’t say something nice
keep it to yourself.