Ladies, We Just Don't Get It!

There has been much discussion about abortion and Planned Parenthood in the news as of late and both sides seem to be getting more frustrated. The anger seems to be aimed at the women who utilize these clinics, yet no solution arises from all of the discussion, so I offer mine. 

Since it seems women don’t get it and continue to have indiscriminate, unprotected sex with men who have no intention of marrying us and then we wantonly get pregnant and march off to the abortion clinic only to have it ripped from our womb. 

Ladies, we don’t get it, and we can’t be trusted to do the right thing…so I think it’s time for those opposing women having control over their bodies try a new angle. Focus your attention on the men and leave it up to them to put an end to this insanity.  

The abortion issue is less complicated than it seems, because there is a simple solution; condoms. Okay, it isn’t perfect but if condoms were used consistently and properly with every sex act we would put a huge dent in unwanted pregnancies.   

After all they are 98% effective in preventing pregnancy, as well as preventing STD’s; so let’s put this issue to bed once and for all.  

Really, it’s that simple-isn’t it?

Once Upon A Time...

Imagine a place where there is harmony. You are surrounded by people who value the same things that you value; stability, security, integrity and mutual respect. Because you have similar values and you essentially want the same things for your future - crime is relatively rare. Of course there are disagreements and situations that need resolution but those resolutions are not difficult to come by because you gave the same vision for your future and the future of your children and the future looks good.

But one day others decided that you were too much alike; you lacked diversity and were too isolated from the cultures around the world. You needed to be more inclusive; embrace the other cultures of the world, bring them into your society and allow them to assimilate into your society so you could coexist.

So, being generous and open minded you decide that it will be a good thing to invite others in and extend your generosity to them so that they are able to enjoy the benefits your society has to offer. You are optimistic that they will learn from you and you will learn from them and together you can build an even better future for everyone.

But there is a problem with that. The other people that you so graciously accepted and welcomed into your society don’t want to assimilate. They aren’t interested in who you are as a community, they don’t care about your beliefs or your values. In fact, they despise your beliefs and your values and deride the way you act, the way you think, and the way you look. They believe women are second class citizens. They believe their culture is superior and believe everyone should accept it.

No one wants to be critical of the others because that would be offensive to them and their way of life, so no one says anything. The natives adapt to the others and make room for their intolerance and judgement; they make excuses for them and cover up their behavior.

Now imagine that same place some year’s later, violent crime has increased up by 300% and rape is up by 1472%. Only one other country, known for its violence against women has a higher incidence of rape than this country. That is and of itself is horrible; but the real tragedy is that those in charge are still making excuses for those others that see fit to commit violent acts against those who so unconditionally accepted them into their community. 

A World of Illusions

We live in a world of illusions. Advertisers manipulate us with images of the life they think we want and all we have to do to get it is buy their product and that perfect life is ours.  So we go out and buy the product or whatever it is they are selling and are disappointed when nothing in our life changes. Advertisers lie to us, politicians lie to us constantly and then we lie to ourselves. We lie for many reasons; to maintain an image, to make others think we are something better or more interesting and we lie because we want to maintain some sort of control in an environment that at times seems overwhelming; after all the truth can be difficult. Advertisers and politicians get to us to think with our emotions rather than reason and logic and most of the time we aren’t even aware that it’s happening.

With all of the distractions and images surrounding us it’s easy to lose track of who we really are. We get tossed into categories that aim to define and limit us, but that isn’t the reality. We are individuals, each with unique personalities to be celebrated not restricted by a politician or advertisers narrow definition of who they think we are or should be. There is room for different opinions and different thoughts; that’s what this country was built on. Being true to yourself is the best gift you can give.